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This week we have: Max from Tried and True Mom Jobs!
Max blogs at Tried and True Mom Jobs and writes about ways moms can have the best of both worlds, to make money and stay home and raise their kids in addition to ways to save money and invest.
Take it away, Max!
#1 Worst Moment: When My Grandfather Passed Suddenly
I was 8-years-old when my grandfather passed and although I was so young, his death still affects me today.
My grandfather was the Pastor of a large congregation and the glue that kept our family together. He passed away suddenly at the age of 54, he wasn’t even sick. His heart just stopped.
I count this as one of the worst moments in my life because when he died the bond our family had died along with him and it greatly affected our church.
We depended on him for so many things, he was our leader. My grandfather had a special relationship with all his grandchildren but nothing was like ours.
Who would take over as Pastor was never discussed and when the new Pastor was appointed it brought division in the church and family.
What did I learn?
To talk about the inevitable.
I don’t think anyone likes to talk about death but it’s something we all have to face and it’s so important to discuss what should happen when we are gone, especially if you are in a leadership position.
I believe if we had known his succession plan things would have turned out much better for our church and family.
I also learned that tomorrow is not promised and you don’t have to be sick to die. Life is too short so love each other and forgive.
#2 Worst Moment: When My Father was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis
Multiple Sclerosis (MS) affects people in different ways, but for us, it would mean that my Father would have a tough time walking and getting around.
My Superman, Marathon runner, the Hardest working man I know was starting to slow down. Year after year it would seem to get a little worse and he would soon have to quit his job as a Fireman.
The man who saved lives daily had to turn in his papers after falling down some stairs on a job because his legs gave out. He tried so hard to stick it out as long as he could.
There is nothing worse than watching someone you love lose so much.
My mom has had to step up a lot and I know it hurts my dad more than anything that he can’t help out as he wants.
I choose to look at the good in this bad situation and be thankful because I’m a lot closer to my dad than I think I’d ever be. As a fireman, he’d work a full 24 hours a couple days out of the week and I would rarely see him, it’s funny how life works.
My dad has struggled with this the last 20 years but we are still believing God will bring him out of this. I don’t know how but I choose to believe. The doctors say there is no cure for this disease but I know my God is bigger than what the doctors say.
If I can believe God for going to some miraculous place like Heaven when I die, surely I can believe God can heal my father. I know others won’t agree with my beliefs, but I choose to have faith in God and trust in His timing.
My father has not let this setback stop him from moving forward in his career. He went back to school online and earned his Bachelor’s degree, Master’s, and now you can call him a Doctor!!!
What did I learn?
We cannot control everything that happens to us in this life, so make the best out of a bad situation.
Accepting your situation can defeat you. Faith and hope will give you the motivation to look forward to tomorrow.
When “life” happens try and look at the good and be thankful, focusing on the negative will only make your situation worse.
#1 Best Moment in Life: Earning over $40,000 in Scholarships
I was a junior in high school and the reality of going to college was becoming more real. I knew I wanted to go to college and I also knew my parents couldn’t afford it.
I did not want to take out student loans.
I attended a workshop after school and I’ll never forget the words this woman spoke, “The only reason students don’t get scholarships is because they are L-A-Z-Y.”
Those words resonated with me. If I knew anything, I knew that I had the drive and determination to do whatever I set my mind to.
I was not very athletic and my grades were a B average, so getting a full-ride anywhere was not an option. I knew if I was going to be able to go to school without getting in debt my best option would be to get as many individual scholarships as I could.
When I started applying for scholarships I understood why so many people didn’t even apply, because it required A LOT of work for just one scholarship that wasn’t guaranteed.
But I took the optimistic approach, what if I did get it? It was worth the risk. Those lady’s words kept ringing in my ear and it kept me going.
I applied for HUNDREDS of scholarships
It’s funny, I won a $1,000 Buddhist scholarship and I’m a Christian. The scholarship did not require you to be a part of their religion but just a decent GPA and to write an essay. I’m sure many people saw that scholarship and just passed it up.
If I met the requirements, I applied.
I won over $40,000 in scholarships. I still had to take out Student loans but had I not taken this route I may still be in debt to this day (I’m debt free!).
What did I learn?
Your words can have a lasting impact on someone’s life – good or bad. I know that woman has no idea what she did for me with just those few words.
You can do anything you set your mind to and you can succeed by doing what others aren’t willing to do.
#2: Best Moment in Life: When I found my Purpose
I never intended to start a blog, but after I became pregnant with my second child, I was determined to find a way to make money from home so I could stay home and raise my kids.
I started looking online for ways to make money from home, and I couldn’t find any articles that showed me how to get started, if I could do it from home with kids (I wanted to hear from other moms), and most importantly how much could I make.
I had recently created a website for my church, so I had a little experience building a website. Since I couldn’t find what I was looking for I decided to get in the blogging game and create a website for moms like me.
I interviewed moms who worked from home and was fortunate to have them share how they got started, how much they made, and how they managed to work at home with kids.
There are so many scams out there I wanted to provide a place that moms can go to and trust to find legitimate ways to make money and save.
I always thought I would be happy once I got “the job”, married, and then when I had kids and Yes, all of that has brought me happiness but it’s something about knowing your purpose and your “why”. I believe when you know what that is and you are doing it, that is what brings true happiness.
I LOVE what my site has become. Showing moms like me how they can have the best of both worlds, to stay home and raise their kids AND make money is a dream. It’s a dream I never even knew I wanted.
Kids change you
Hearing how I am helping others has given me purpose and it makes me want to do this even more.
What did I learn?
If there is a problem and you know how to solve it, then solve it. Don’t wait for someone else to do it.
I believe true happiness lies in doing something bigger than yourself and that’s helping others. If you can make money while doing it, then all the better.
Max is just crushing it… I absolutely love her attitude in handling adversity and her drive and work ethic to make things happen. I was really struck with her focus and love for her family in combination with her drive to make a mark in this world! What a powerhouse…
What stuck out to you from Max’s story? Let us know in the comments below and we’ll keep the discussion going!
Thanks for reading!